First many thanks to everyone that helped me get NTLM working on the Explorer side AND more importantly the Share side. Especially ofrxnz! (He cut through the chaff!)
At any rate I modded Authority-services-context.xml to allow my user to be an admin (adminUsers Property). Obviously when I went to NTLM my admin account broke - the one I originally used to setup several sites. Thankfully I already had another account ready to step. Problem is when I use that admin account and load up share and go to a previously created site where that user is a site admin/manager I no longer have an invite button in share - if I go to explorer I do have an invite. This morning I did use my admin account to take ownership of the site in explorer but still no invite under share. Any suggestions?